Love is..?
I'm sure you’ve asked yourself this more than once. I did. Maybe I'm just 20, maybe I'm too young to know. What is love? Is it something planted by God within us? Or is it just another thing we learn? Is it an illusion? Is it real? Is it something we need? Can we just do fine without it in our lives? Just listen to love songs, there are countless definitions, emotions, and thoughts linked to this single word.
They say love is a miracle, they say love is a blessing, they say it's amazing to be in love. They say a lot of good things about it..then how come a lot of people are ''hurt'' by love? How come people are in love with the wrong ones? How come people break up? How come they get divorced? Weren't they supposed to be ''in love''? If nothing's forever,What about love to eternity? Is it just a lie? Is it an unreachable dream? If so, maybe some marriage vows should be changed to ''Till divorce tears us apart'' instead of ''till death do us apart''.
Sometimes we see people so in love but suddenly love alters, it changes, it disappears, and that may hurt the lives of many. A person is in love with someone this month and someone else the next month. Why is that? Is that possible? Is it right? I was just looking around me..and wondering. People are in love, out of love. People get married, people get separated, people get divorced, all because of love. That takes me back to my question leaving it unanswered. Last year I was asked this exact same question in an English course, and when I now read the essay I wrote back then, I think to myself ''Was I joking?, what on earth was I thinking?''. It's strange how perspectives change..Maybe next year, I'll see it in a different way!
They say love is a miracle, they say love is a blessing, they say it's amazing to be in love. They say a lot of good things about it..then how come a lot of people are ''hurt'' by love? How come people are in love with the wrong ones? How come people break up? How come they get divorced? Weren't they supposed to be ''in love''? If nothing's forever,What about love to eternity? Is it just a lie? Is it an unreachable dream? If so, maybe some marriage vows should be changed to ''Till divorce tears us apart'' instead of ''till death do us apart''.
Sometimes we see people so in love but suddenly love alters, it changes, it disappears, and that may hurt the lives of many. A person is in love with someone this month and someone else the next month. Why is that? Is that possible? Is it right? I was just looking around me..and wondering. People are in love, out of love. People get married, people get separated, people get divorced, all because of love. That takes me back to my question leaving it unanswered. Last year I was asked this exact same question in an English course, and when I now read the essay I wrote back then, I think to myself ''Was I joking?, what on earth was I thinking?''. It's strange how perspectives change..Maybe next year, I'll see it in a different way!
posted by Wild_Heart at 6:42 PM
8 Comments:
Love is an emotion. It is also a commitment. I believe that the capacity for love is indeed placed within us by God. I also believe that to some extent we are taught how to love well, and in a healthy way. I believe it is real and that it is something we need. We can survive without it. But it brings so much to our lives. To sound like a cliche, in ways it...completes us.
I think love is different than being "in love". Seems to me that people fall in and out of love entirely too easily. Like I said, love is a commitment. I am in love with my husband, but I also love him regardless of the romantic feelings of being in love with him. To be honest, I think that people sometimes convince themselves that their spouse is the "wrong person" for them. I heard a speaker one time say that you need to be the spouse that you want your spouse to be. You want him to be considerate of your feelings? Remember to consider his feelings. Don't get me wrong...sometimes it just can't work. If there were abuse, I'd NEVER tell someone to stay. "Til death do us part" isn't a lie or an unreachable dream. But I do think that people forget that it is a vow. It's more than a promise. A vow is sacred. A vow involves commitment and work. There will be times that you are SO angry with your spouse that you could [hit him, yell at him, divorce him, etc...]. But you remember your vow. You realize your not exactly guilt-free in whatever the argument is about. You work it out. You go through a renewing process. Together. As a couple. Some people throw in the towel without really trying.
I'm wary of "love at first sight" simply because while lust can be instant or maybe even the beginnings of love...the deep love that ISN'T blind to the other's faults - you just love them in spite of or because of those faults - takes time to develop. You have to get to know the person.
Love. It is fulfillment. It is having someone to grow old with. Someone that you can be yourself - no barriers, no masks - with. Love is forgiveness. It is trust. It is honesty. It is respect. It is everlasting. It is wonderful.
Sarah>>Thanks for sharing your veiws..I agree with a lot of what you said:),it's more than i know..coz u speak from excperience..
Rudaba>>Thank u for ur comments,
'I think love is when u want to change yourself for someone.' this is so true, i've seen it happen a lot of times..
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lolaaa>>i agree with the 2 things u said, love surprises you, it comes when least expected..even when it's the wrong time,place or person. i guess that's why they say love is 'blind'
and it's true that sometimes we think we are in love when we may not be..
Thanx for the comments;)
Love is unplanned and that's what I love about it. It just happens. Out of the blue. When you least expect with all different sorts of people. Close, distant, new, old, family, friends, strangers... as they say: Love Just Is.
Alex>>True...it's very unpredictable...I guess that just gives it its beauty..sometimes
Everyone defines love in a different way...there are many kinds of love, thus, its a four letter word which is hard to define!
El3ash>>i really enjoyed reading ur insights about love..thanx:)
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